Thursday, December 24, 2009

It's finally here!

Well, the day has arrived for us to travel to bring Noah home. We leave tomorrow morning, Lord willing. We are supposed to leave Kansas City at 9:00 Christmas morning and head north to Minneapolis, Minnesota. It's nerve wracking since in addition to the last minute packing, I am a little concerned about the weather, but know God will work everything out to His purpose.

We are meeting with my (Tom's) family tonight to celebrate Christmas and hope to try to get at least a little sleep tonight. I'm filled with so many thoughts and feelings ranging from little things like the trip itself to how well Noah will adjust to a new family, culture and life. We are so blessed to be allowed this opportunity and look forward to every chance we have to learn about the Taiwan culture, language, etc.

We wish everyone a Merry Christmas and can't wait to watch as God works with all of the orphaned children in the world to bring them home to their forever families.

God Bless!

Tom

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Last minute preparations!

Although we have about a month before travel, I'm calling everything we're trying to do last minute preparations. There is so much to do before we travel beyond just booking flights and hotel.

For starters, Christmas shopping takes time from other things we would like to do to prepare for travel. Thankfully our families are understanding of this and don't mind just getting gift cards to their favorite store.

We also have so many things we want to get done around the house. We finally have Noah's room ready, but that's only paint and furniture so far. We still would like to decorate it further, but may wait until we know what he likes. We have decided to get a lot done now so when we return there won't be distractions from the constant family time we would like to enjoy.

Travel preparation is getting underway, but we're finding that flights are fairly expensive around Christmas and New Year's. With the money we've already spent, though, it's not too bad.

I'll try to update this as often as possible while we're in Taiwan. Right now we plan to leave Christmas Day, pick Noah up at Cathwel 12/28, AIT 12/30 and get documents 12/31. We will be staying and enjoying the country until January 7th, so that we can begin building memories as a family in Noah's birth country.

We wish everyone the best and hope for speedy news of bringing your little ones home.

-Tom

Monday, November 16, 2009

Great News!!!

We got our call yesterday before church.

We will be traveling December 26th. Incredibly, today is my (Tom's) birthday and we learned yesterday of our travel date. Then to find that it's right after Christmas!. It's great to know we'll have Noah in our arms December 28th, before the year is over. We will also celebrate New Year's in Taipei. Now to finish our list of things we wanted to accomplish before we bring him home. I have a big honey-do list.

We continually pray for safe travel for ourselves and all the other families who are waiting to hear that call of a referral or travel date.

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Our monthly update

September 23, 2009

As I mentioned in my last posting, we sent Noah a package for his second birthday. Among the items in the package were some photos of us, his new family.

Last week we received our monthly update which included four new photos and the one-page update on how he is doing. It brought tears to our eyes when we read that he asks to see the photos daily and calls us mama, papa and gege (brother in Mandrin). We are counting the days until we bring him home. He is already such a part of our family and we haven't even met him yet. God must know the things we still need to get done to be completely ready to bring him home.

We have been keeping ourselves busy getting a lot of work done both inside and outside our yard. The biggest task has been installing a gate at teh back of our yard giving us access to the fire pit we built back by the creek and making sure we won't have any extra things to do once we bring him home, leaving our time to be devoted to him. It's funny because my Rasha is usually the one who gets anxious about things. I have found myself getting anxious when it comes to our wait; sometimes more so then her. It's great we have each other and Gabriel to retain our sanity.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Noah is 2-years-old today!

September 3, 2009

We were hoping to have Noah home by today, his second birthday, but no word yet. We haven't even met him in person, but he's our son. he's part of our family and even his big brother can't wait to meet him and bring him home.

We know that God is in control of everything. No matter how hard it is to let it rest in his hands, we must. No matter how I think things should be, God has his divine plan for me, my wife and the rest of my family.

Although we aren't spending his birthday with him, we did send a package to Cathwel with some gifts for him. He should have received it by now. I hope he likes his presents. When we bring him home, we're going to celebrate with him with a cake and ice cream.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

We received new pictures yesterday!


We hadn't heard anything for a few weeks from Bethany, but I received a call Tuesday. Hoping it was to learn of our travel date, but it wasn't. We did, however, get some updated pictures of Noah. They were taken in June and he is growing so fast without us.


Next Thursday is his 2nd birthday. We're mailing a package of presents to him tonight after work. I think the best part of getting his presents was our current son's involvement. Gabriel wanted to pick out everything for Noah and did choose most of the things with our help.

They also sent a one-page update on how he's doing. It was so good to see how his progression as a young man is going.

Tom

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Hooray!

July 23, 2009

I just got back to my office after dropping our country fee off to Bethany. I must admit, it was a little painful handing over the cashier's check for all of that money. The reward will be worth it though.

Now we just have to play the waiting game to hear of our travel date. We should be traveling sometime between now and Christmas!

Tom

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Timing is everything!

June 16, 2009

The timing was incredible. I had no sooner posted yesterday about our paperwork being on its way when I received a call that it was here!

We can't wait to find out when our court date will be so we can bring him home. With the paperwork, we got more pictures and more information about his family. It turns out his mother was adopted when she was a toddler and has had a very tough life. He has a half brother adn half sister who don't even know he exists and his birth father wanted nothing to do with him.

I'm extremely glad that God is allowing us to give this child a home filled with love and an older brother who will do anything he can to in order to keep him happy.

-Tom

Monday, June 15, 2009

Our paperwork is on its way from Cathwel!

June 15, 2009

I got an email from our caseworker at Bethany this morning letting us know our paperwork from Cathwel is on its way.

Now we just have to sign everything when it comes in, send it back to Taiwan and wait to hear about our court date. I guess it may still be possible to bring him home before his second birthday in September. We'll keep our prayers flowing and our fingers crossed.

In the meantime we're doing some final preparations for his arrival, including putting the fence back up by the creek that runs through our backyard. We took it down to cut some trees this Spring and finally got it completely back up yesterday. I don't always feel like going for a swim, although Kansas summers motivate me more.

Thanks to all who are praying for us through this process. We can truly see God at work in everything.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Still waiting, but excited!

May 26, 2009

Well, we celebrated our 12th Wedding Anniversary Sunday. It was a solemn one knowing we were preparing for our new son, but not quite sure exactly when he will "officially" be ours. It looks like we'll be traveling during the school year in the Fall, most likely. That means pulling our son from school to travel, but we won't let him miss the opportunity to travel with us to bring his brother home.

We have been tossing a few names around and really like Noah for his American name. It's not set in stone, but at this point we like it the best. He does look like a Noah and we like the Biblical meaning as well; rest, comfort. I personally like this becasue he will bring to rest our hearts which long for a second child, a brother for our son.

I think through this entire process we have found that the majority of people don't understand what it's like to go through something like this. We, unlike many people adopting, have experienced having a biological child. I think it gives us a better understanding of what others go through knowing you can't have a child on your own. In our situation, we were planning on having another biological child. Actually in May 2005 we were planning on trying for a second child. Evidently God had other plans for us. I honestly don't think I would have ever thought about adoption if God hadn't brought my cancer diagnosis in April 2005; one month before we had planned on adding to our family.

I don't regret the cancer and I don't regret going through the chemotherapy, monthly lab work and bi-monthly Cat Scans over the next 3 1/2 years. What I do constantly think about is that my wife can't have a child because of my diagnosis. She knows she can't get pregnant becasue of me. Don't get me wrong, she would never mention it or even blame anyone. That's not her way. I always wonder when I see her around our family and friends who are able to have children at will if she's thinking about it. I also know how tactless some people can be talking to her and mentioning every few minutes about their pregnancy. She would never say anything to them. She's a much better person than most people, including myself. Even while we were waiting to hear if we were accepted as his parents, my prayers were for God's will to be done by bringing this child to us. Hers were more specific. As I was trying to be selfish, wanting this child to be ours, she prayed that if this child wasn't meant to be ours, that God would provide a loving home for him regardless of who it was with. She has been selfless since the day I met her and would sacrifice herself without a second thought to save soemone she loves. That is the kind of woman God provided for me. That is the woman I married. That is the woman I love.

I pray daily for God to give her peace as only He can. I pray that God will bring our son home soon.

Enough for now.

Tom

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Things are happining!

May 19, 2009

It has been a few days since I last left an update.

We had such a fun week last week celebrating our son's sixth birthday. It made me think as we we watched him with his friends at the zoo that he will get to celebrate his seventh birthday as a big brother. He has been wanting a brother since he was three years old; how patient he's been for three years. Daily I see God working in him, helping him grow so he can be the example he will need to be for his little brother.

In his Taekwondo class last night, Gabriel showed his maturity by following his teacher's instruction rather than disrupt the class as a few other children did. It really makes me proud as a father to see him becoming such a young man at only six years old while still retaining his playful, innocent side.

The last week has seen God showing us that He is continuing to work in and through us and that He is in control of everything happening around us. I am blessed to be part of a family in which we all realize our roles are to help and suppport each other. None of us are center stage, but we all play supporting roles to make our family what it is.

I am so thankful that our new son, (we still haven't decided on an American name - although we are narrwoing it down) will come to a famaily that loves him unconditionally and will always do all they can to provide for him.

Saturday we're going to choose the paint for his room. We already have everything else ready, so this is very exciting.

We can't wait to bring him home!

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Preparations have begun

May 7, 2009

While we're waiting for the legal papers to arrive from Taiwan, we've begun to get Chi's room ready. We can't wait to add him to our family.

I think the biggest blessing is coming from our son. In the last few days he has really stepped up and become even more of a help to us than before. We have noticed a change in him and, at six-years-old (next week), it's really impressive. I know he wants to be a great help to us and his little brother. He has gone above his normal chores and offered to do more to help. He also wants to spend time in his brother's room instead of playing in his own.

God is really good to us and every day we see how He completely cares for His children and provides.

-Tom

Friday, May 1, 2009

Introducing (Updated)

May 1, 2009

We are so excited to introduce Chi-siang, our new son. We will be giving him an American name while still keeping him birth name in the mix. We were told it should be between 3-6 months when will travel to bring him home.

Our biological son is so excited to be getting a little brother!

I pray God keeps him safe and prepares him for the culture change of bringing him to the US.

One step Closer...I just dropped the Adoption Placement Agreement off at the agency. WE can't wait to bringhim home!

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Good News!

I just got an email fromour adoption agency telling us our adoption of Chi has been approved. We will be signing the adoption placement agreement today. There are a few things which I'm not too sure about though.

We're excited to begin the next step of the adoption process!

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

God, give me patience

April 22, 2009

As I've mentioned before, I'm not a patient person. I realize I'm being tested through this, and it's hard.

I spoke with the Executive Director of the agency we're going through Sunday at church and a comment she made gave me some hope. She said they were hopeing to get our paperwork from Taiwan this week sometime. Being the ever optimist, I took that to mean she knows something we don't. regarldess of what God has in store for us, I know he also has a plan for this little boy waiting for his forever home. I think the worst par tfor me is knowing these children are sitting in orphanges and foster homes, soemtimes for years, without knowing what it's truly like to have a family of their own.

I am the third oldest of nine children. I had a sense of where I belonged. I had my family that I knew would always be "my family" for better or worse. These children don't have that feeling. They may feel loved and are cared for, but they have a future that is in limbo. I sometimes sit and wonder, "What is this child doing right now?" or "What did he do today? Did he think about having a family that truly devoted their life to protecting him, caring for him and giving the unconditional love that only a parent can provide?"

i pray today, as every day, that if God's plan is to have this child in our family, we would be honored. If he, however, decides that it isn't to be, that this sweet little boy will be brought home soon to a loveing, caring family.

Thursday, April 9, 2009

Still waiting

God is really trying to teach me patience through this entire adoption process. He knows how impatient I am and knows this is a real test for me. But, I know he is sovereign nad in control of all.

It has been nearly a week since we were told that Cathwel was trying to meet with Chi's birth mother to aprove our adopting him and still no word. i know the process takes time, but I think it make sit harder knowing that Taipei is 14 hours ahead of us and that each day we wake with no word, we know it will most likely be at least two more days until we hear anything. It's very unnerving.
All we can do is continue to pray and trust that everything will work out the way it's meant to.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Today's thoughts

April 8, 2009

As I woke this morning and saw the sun come up, I thought about all of the wonderful things God has done for our family. I wonder what He'll do today? What is a day like from God's perspective? He has no beginning and no end, right? Does He watch the sun rise on one side of the world while it sets on another and say to himself, "I wonder who will blaspheme my name today." or maybe He just sits and watches since He already knows what the day or night will bring.

His incredible, all knowing deity is around us daily and we sometimes go about our lives oblivious to His work in the world. He allowed my cancer and that of others to happen for a reason. He allowed me to be healed while allowing someone else to succomb to the disease. Why did he choose to allow me to live? We may not always know what his purpose is for what happens to us, but one look at nature and you know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he is always in control.

I know, through many events throughout my life that I would not be here had it not been for divine intervention. I know I probably wouldn't have met my wonderful wife had God not been in control of it. There are at least a dozen circumstances that had to fall into place perfectly in order for me to meet my wife, who God brought into my Kansas town all the way from Egypt. He knew she was the person for me; my soulmate. He knew that my weaknesses were her strengths and vice-versa. He knew that she would be the rock that I needed while we battled cancer and He knew she would be the selfless, loving person she is to me in my many selfish moments.

He is in control on whether we will be allowed to adopt this wonderful little boy in Taiwan or whether I will have a safe drive home from work tonight. We just pray that, if we aren't meant to adopt him, that God will provide a loving family for him.

Have a great day knowing God is watching over you!

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Our Referral

Sorry I haven't had the opportunity to begin this blog at the beginning of our journey, but I will do my best to keep updates flowing during the remainder of it.
We received our referral from Cathwel on March 27, 2009. It came from Cathwel directly rather than from the birth mother, so we will had to wait to see if we were the first to respond.

April 2, 2009
We found out that Cathel is waiting to get ahold of the birth mother of this darling little boy to approve us adopting him. He will be two years old on September 3, so we're hoping for a speedy process and will do everything we can to bring him home by his birthday. We have a picture of him posted on our refridgerator and our son looks at it constantly. He has already begun talking about sharing his stuff with his little brother. He will make and awesome big brother!
Our prayers go out to all who are still waiting to hear and for those who have just begun the process.

The Beginning

I just started this blog today. My goal through this is to provide a little insight into the events which led us to adoption.
We have been asked what led us to decide to adopt and why we chose international adoption as opposed to domestic. The events which brought us to adoption aren't your typical story.
We have a biological son who will turn six in May 2009. In 2005 as we were planning to provide a biological sibling for him, I was diagnosed with cancer. Needless to say, surgery and chemotherapy left us unable to have another biological child. It's really ironic how God works, because the idea of adoption had never entered our thoughts prior to this. As we spoke with specialists to see if it would be possible to ever have a "child of our own" again, God was at work in our church by providing families with children from throughout the world. It was during this time we learned of an adoption program called Keleidescope Ministry that developed within our church. There were families who had adopted previously; both domestic and internationally in the group. As we looked into the ministry further, we felt God tugging at our hearts and, as they say, the rest is history. As we reasearched the different countries, we decided on Taiwan. We came to this decision because we love the Asian culture and Taiwan specifically due to few countries allowing adoption following cancer survivorship.

We are excited to see where God leadsd us on this journey.